Looking back on my previous blog posts it’s really hitting me just how much has changed and evolved in my life. If you’d have asked me back then what the future held I never would’ve guessed what actually unfolded. I would have said “still married and hopefully with two more children”. How interesting is it that God seems to have planned for us what our hearts long for, but not necessarily in the manner in which we think we’re going to receive it? All I ever wanted was to be a wife and mother. Sure, I had (and still have) other hopes and dreams, but none of them compare to the joy I’ve always known marriage and motherhood would bring me.
When I first started TRM in 2016 I was married and had one son. After one early miscarriage and then losing Ben I figured we’d try for at least one more baby, which we did, but never achieved. Flash forward to mid 2017 and I was getting divorced and moving my son and I in with my parents to reset my life. My marriage had been mediocre at best and we were never really suited to each other the way we’d believed once upon a time. For years I thought we’d overcome our long standing obstacles and thrive, and I fought like hell for that, but it wasn’t meant to be. So aside from my one son it seemed like the end of my dreams. Here’s where it gets interesting, though. As I mentioned, God has a way of fulfilling us even when we don’t realize he’s doing it. Just as I was ending my marriage, an old friend and I began to reconnect.
One Messenger conversation. That’s all it took to shift the course of my life yet again and in the best way possible. I couldn’t have imagined at the time that this man (spoiler alert it’s Aaron, the Reinvented Dad) was going to be all that I needed and longed for. Short digression: Aaron and I have known each other since 4th grade, graduated together, had mutual friends growing up, crossed paths in college, had a fling, then lost touch until Facebook made us distant acquaintances again around 2010. And it wasn’t until seven years later that we’d truly realize the bond we share.
There we were, stumbling into 2018, two souls weathered by life and past loves, navigating a relationship twenty years in the making. We moved in together in July of 2019 and endured two early term miscarriages back to back. One was 13 weeks and the other was 6. But despite my seemingly ill-fated uterus, we remained solid and I’d reserved myself to the notion that there would be no more babies. Hey, I was approaching forty anyway and my relationship with Aaron gave me two bonus kids, so all wasn’t lost! Again, though… God’s timing… I focused on more natural living that included two inner body cleanses. Now, I’m no scientist and I can’t claim that it was the only factor that made the difference, but I believe it helped me quite a bit, and last May I ended up pregnant!! All I could do the entire time was pray that this was finally the keeper.
Aaron and I bought our first house in June and our rainbow baby arrived on January 17, 2022! A healthy full term pregnancy turned healthy baby girl. Oh! We also got engaged in February! So there we have it. My second (and last) child was born, my son got the little sibling he’d been wishing for, both Aaron and I got bonus children, the wedding date is set; now my forever family is complete and The Reinvented Mom has been revived. Not at all how I’d imagined my life all those years ago, but exactly how it was meant to be, thank God.
The Reinvented Mom 